Thursday, January 28, 2010

no title today

1. I relapsed. No, I wouldn't call it a relapse, more of a slip. I think it was last week, we were out to lunch at Strawberry Square, and it was packed and I was rushing to get back to the table. Without even thinking about it, I filled my cup with Cherry Coke, and downed it. It didn't even dawn on me until later in the afternoon when I was all hyper, and completely wired. It won't happen again, I promise.

2. Shell, to answer your question on the caffeine post, I did have pretty bad headaches for about 2 days, and then rather mild, short headaches for probably 2 days after that. It wasn't as bad as I thought it would be!

3. My husband came home from work today with a bottle of Dr. Pepper that was still half full. He RARELY drinks DP, and I had to fight the urge to knock him and Emma out of the way to get to it.

4. The house has been on the market for 5 days and still no offers. Grrrr.

5. We are having an open house this Sunday. Someone better make an offer.

6. I don't have the patience for sewing projects. Wait. I don't have the patience to do sewing projects the right way. And it shows.

7. I am rediscovering the joy of reading books that I get to choose for myself. I'm not taking any classes this semester, and I'm really enjoying picking out my own books. I read the newest Dan Brown book, The Lost Symbol (in three days), and now I'm starting The Hunger Games, because everyone has been raving about it. Next is A Lion Among Men, to continue my Gregory Maguire obsession that started this summer. I have also learned that it is much smarter to buy my books at Sam's Club, because they are REALLY cheap!!

8. Earlier this week, someone slammed me for reading and enjoying Dan Brown. "Well, if you're into that sort of reading for a cheap thrill..." Ummm. Why judge me for what I'm reading?? Why does it matter to you?? And to make things worse, this particular person is a HUGE Twilight fan. Now, I'm not saying that there's anything wrong with the Twilight series. I haven't read the books. But from what I've been told, by people who ARE fans and who HAVE read them all, they are poorly written, and the movies were horrible. It's just a good story line, and apparently Taylor Lautner is hott. My point is, the person who slammed me for reading Dan Brown is the same person who dressed up in a black and red velvet cape, and wore white make up and fake fangs/blood to go to the early release parties for the books, and wore the same get up to the releases of Twilight and New Moon. And yet I'm the one who should be ashamed of chasing cheap thrills?? I just don't understand people.

9. Speaking of not understanding people, I just don't fit in. People who know me in person, especially my family, will probably think this is a weird thing to say. But, it's true. I'm sort of kooky in my own way, and I know there are people in this world who just get me. And I also know that there are a lot of people who just don't. And I'm sort of tired trying to fit in. So I've just decided I'm not going to, anymore. I've come to the reality that I don't have a lot of friends. Now, my college friends were wonderful and dear, but aside from a very small number of them, we don't really keep in touch, and we are pretty far apart geographically. So, between my best friend from high school, the few college friends in the area, and friends from church, PHS and other miscellaneous places, I have about 10 people that I can truly call my friends. People who really know me. It's so exhausting trying to make new friends, and I feel sooooo socially awkard trying to, so I'm just done with it. I can't take anymore people harshing on me, and judging me for random, ridiculous things that should not matter one bit. That's just one more reason I wouldn't mind moving away from this place!!

10. To end this post on a positive note, Emma is really cute. And today, she asked me for some Chess. She meant Cheese. But give the girl some props for getting that "Ch" sound! Also, she's started blowing raspberries on my belly, and just the other day started blowing raspberries mid-kiss. It's very funny and she's very proud of herself. We were also playing with a tape measure today and she about died laughing. She's so awesome:)

24 comments:

Chrystapooh said...

Target often has books for cheap, too. Boo on the girl who had the gall to criticize your reading material. Sounds like it might be the same girl who blathered on to a newcomer about you and Mike and it was mostly a pack of lies. Maybe? Hope you get an offer on your house because it's dang cute. Do you already have a house in mind to move to? I don't want to jinx you!

Sara K. said...
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Sara K. said...

4 - 5 days, it may take awhile, so hopefully that patience kicks in.

9 - You have about 5 more friends than I do, so consider yourself lucky. Don't judge yourself too harshly. We all have different quirks about us. I think everyone goes through feeling out of place (women anyway). You're living your life, taking care of your family, reading your Dan Brown, life is good, no? Also too, UMC members got your back.

6 - I'm TOTALLY with you sister. I sort of love to craft and create, but it's mostly half hearted. And the end result usually shows.

1 - I was fasting once and while walking through Target I was like, hmmm, why does it taste like frosting in my mouth? And I had inadvertently eaten half of Gaby's freebie frosted cookie. Dang it!

8/7 - I promise I'll only judge you if you try to join the Free Masons and go on to perform secret rituals and then leave clues hidden ancient symbols only Robert Langdon can figure out. Hunger Games is so good. Catching Fire is also too good and the third book comes out 8-24-10. Yay.
The library has books for free! It's win win. You can reserve them online and if they're totally sucky you can give them back without guilt for not finishing.

10 - Agreed, Emma is cuteness incarnate. To provide back up to her cuteness, cousin Owen has taken to jamming out (\m/ \m/) to Selena Gomez's "Naturally" and he knows all the words. He even has an echo. He also loves REO Speedwagon's "Can't Fight This Feeling," and Survivor's "Eye of the Tiger." His repertoire also includes Taylor's entire show choir line up.

11 - the deleted comment is/was mine.

Deb said...

So there is obviously no topping that numbered comment, but I bet I can say less with more words. (Quirks, anyone?)

In addition to my SILs/UMs, I have exactly THREE "good and dear" friends. I had 4; cancer sucks. I also have acquaintances that I enjoy, some very much, but I don't have the desire, need or energy to give enough of myself to become good friends right now.

Furthermore, as young girlies, our whole life is making friends and being with friends and being seen with friends. That's it! (And boys. Boys boys boys.) When we grow up, our attention and energies necessarily change. We are no longer spending every second calling and thinking about our BFFs. We still need girlfriends, but not as many and not in the same way.

So. As you're going about your business, people who get you will quietly and subtly work their way into the treads of your life. You might not be able to predict who they are going to be, but one day you'll realize, Dude, she's got my back! And so does she! FANFREAKINTASTIC!

And these new good and dear friends might not all serve the same purpose in your life equally, but as a group they will make you happy and meet your needs. They may also come and go as you continue to change. And that's OK, also too. Because someone else will surprise you with their new Got Your Back status.

WHEREAS HERETOFORE AND IN CONCLUSION, don't close yourself off to these people who find you. It would be a shame for them to miss out on you. But also don't worry about the ones who don't work out -- they probably wouldn't have been there for the long haul anyway.

And for the record, I love that you're "kooky" and "quirky." To me, it's indicative of your creative and kind soul.

Love,
Your Talks-Too-Much-About-Her-Bra-Wonkey-Eared-Dumb-Blonde-Attention-Grabbing-Left-Wing-Long-Winded-Thinks-Everyone-Gives-A-Crap-What-She-Has-To-Say Friend.

P.S. Glad *I'm* not quirky.

P.P.S. Yup, wordiest comment. And I’ve already cut it down by two-thirds. :-)

Sara K. said...

more is more in my book

Deb said...

And really, I could have summed it all up by just saying that it's just the time of you're life you're in. It's a transitional time, from young chickie to wife and mommy. Just do the things you like in your new life, and the friends will find you where you are.

The end.

Christy said...
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Christy said...

I deleted the above comment because of a typo ~ grrr!

Alyssa, about the friends thing: I totally relate. It may seem as though I have a ridiculous number of "friends" on Facebook but in every life's scenario they come and they go; or rather I do. Life is good in the moment but the second I move away, I'm forgotten. Facebook has helped to reconnect with "old" friends, but not necessarily relationships.

Distance does not always make the heart grow fonder.

I have friends here in OKC, but you may be surprised to know I don't really allow them "in" too much because of the above-mentioned scenario which will inevitably play out in about three years from now.

I can count on my one hand how many people KNOW-know me (and I married one of the three people)

What I have come to realize is that as you go through stages of your life, you find people you can relate to; much like when you got married, you started hanging out with married people; same with when you become a mom ~ you join a MOMS group. It's a never ending quest of finding people you can relate to (at least in my experience). I think it's very rare to have (and keep) a lifelong friend...and if you ever do have that person in your life, treasure it. It's one of a kind

Christy said...

Oh and P.S: you are not quirky. Try being a foot phobic; or a claustophobic; or afraid of flying (I don't make a very good pilot's wife).

Shell said...

So really, I can't top those posts, and won't even try. But I won't judge you for "The Lost Symbol" it is on my nightstand waiting to be read as soon as I finish another book. Or perhaps we should just sit in judgement together. Thanks for the tips on the headaches, I did manage to cut myself down to 2 cans a day and occasionally 1. You inspired me. And the friend thing~ I GET IT. Seriously. I could have written that. I can count my true friends on 1 hand.

Unknown said...

Not only did I read the Lost Symbol, but I also re-read it, then walked around D.C. looking for the the symbols and locations. So tell that girl to go away. (This is Pittsburgh/DC Sara by the way)

Shaylynn... a girl, a story, a blog said...

P.S. I get you. You are beyond hilarious. Oh & Just so you know.. Today at church I told Emma how big she is getting, and she totally dissed me. You need to teach your child manners.

Alyssa said...

Thanks, guys, for all the support. Ya'll nailed it on the head, I think I'm just reaching a point in life where my priorities have changed, and in the process, I have people around me who feel the need to judge and criticize those changes. And I'm realizing that I just don't care anymore about making new friends, impressing people, or doing things a certain way to please other people. I'm not having a pity party or anything, just realizing that I need to STOP worrying about those other people, and let it roll off my back. I've never been good at that, I just let things get to me. But I'm way passive aggressive, so I never do anything but let it eat at me!! And it's more frustrating because there are a lot of times where I'm forced into social situations with people I'd rather not be around, and then what can you do?? Let it go...let it go!

So anyway, thanks:) Glad I'm not the only one who's a big friendless loser!! Haha!

And Shay, she wasn't dissing you!! Mom said everybody wanted to hold her, but she is just NOT a child who wants to be held. She wants DOWN DOWN DOWN and to RUN RUN RUN! Mom had to leave early because she kept trying to steal sippy cups and bottles from other kids. Now THAT is something I'm going to have to teach her a lesson about! Hahaha!

Alyssa said...

Oh, and DC/Pittsburgh Sara, OF COURSE I know who you are! And I'm dying to know, was all the stuff there in DC?????????? It was such a good book!!!!!!

Anna@Exasperation said...

cool three days late on the blog...we had a busy weekend.
Your house will sell. It's adorable and reasonably priced. And adorable. And if you put up a historical plaque mentioning that Emma spent her first year of life there, it will help. Just sayin'.
What's wrong with Dan Brown books? The guy can actually write. With, like, different words and stuff. And intricate plot lines. And you have to have a brain to hold it all together. None of the above can be said about Twilight, and you KNOW I'm a fan of those (stories, not writing). Hater was being a hater because she has NOTHING ELSE TO GO ON. How is Dan Brown cheap thrills? I'm seriously mystified. Wouldn't that make all books thrillers in one way or the other, because you don't know the end when you start it.
on the friends subject, ditto everyone else. I have plenty of acquaintances for a good girls night out, but FRIENDS? Well, there's Pittsburgh Sara...and Steph to the B, and my various sisters-in-law, and sisters-in-law's-sister-in-law, and my sisters...and there you have it. Friends. And you're right, if they don't accept you just the way you are (cue the Billy joel) then it's too time consuming and emotionally draining to even bother. Before you know it you're going to have another kid and you're going to be thankful to only have a handful of friends to keep up with. And you'll be glad they're REAL friends because they won't take it personally when you drop off the face of the earth for awhile as life demands.
That was long.
I still want to punch whoever said that about Dan Brown. But only because my suspicion is similar to Chrysta's...
I can't sew. At all. I've attempted - as IA Sara. It's not pretty.
I think you're amazing for no-going the caffeine in the first place. As soon as I put the ghostbuster sign over any food group it becomes all I can think about.
I would break my fast to eat Emma. Any day, any time.

Anna@Exasperation said...

What I meant to say was "as IA Sara can attest to." IA Sara CAN sew (regardless of what she says), and it's usually very pretty. I have a Cameron, A Miles and A Sophia to prove it.

Chrystapooh said...

I love that everyone else is full of wonderful, wise, and witty advice on the friends front, and I was just trying to get you to spill who the hater is. Because, you know, I want to literally, physically slap her in the face next time I'm in Pee-Yay.

Fo' rillz, though, I've got the sistaz (which, it SHOULD go without saying, includes the SILs and the SIL's SIL, i.e. Bed) and Nicole. That's it. Not even many surface friends I could go out with. As if I ever have a chance to go out. But anyway, I'm going to spend the next six months crying in my closet and praying that Nicole turns out to be one of those few-and-far-between friends who DOESN'T disappear when they move away. Not because I don't trust Nicole to keep in touch, but because I'm awful at it. And because everyone else is right about the seasons of life thing, and friends coming and going, and AAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!! I don't think I can take it.

Sounds like I need to read some Dan Brown to take my mind off of it.

Chrystapooh said...

P.S. How was the Open House??? And did Mom and Dad survive their Weekend of Emma???

Alyssa said...

Ok, forgot to update ya'll. The Open House WAS NOT this Sunday, it will be next Sunday. Just a miscommunication between the realtor and I. However, she is trying to set up a brokers open for tomorrow (Tuesday), so it's good we had the weekend to clean and finish projects, anyway. Now it's a simple matter of maintenance and minor cleaning before people come. So I'm relieved to have it done. I think Mom and Dad had a wonderful weekend of Emma. She is always really happy to get out of the house, so I think being in a new place was good for her! She had a really good time!

Oh, and to answer your question, Chrysta. NOT the same person. The Dan Brown Hater is a person I'd actually gotten really close to from my masters program. We'd had a lot of classes together, were both LDS (but not in the same ward), both had young babies, and even had gotten together for lunch and a play date. And then WHAM, out of the blue she gets all judgy on me. Ack.

Unknown said...

MOST of the stuff in the book was easy to find. However, since I don't currently have unlimited access to the Capitol building or the Washington Monument, I can't vouch for that. :) We also toured the really cool Masonic temple in Alexandria. I highly recommend doing that sometime.

Chrystapooh said...

Well, I hope your open house goes really well. Glad you got your projects done.

As for your hater, what is UP with people??? I have to VT with a girl who I think thinks we are friends, but she is so judgy it drives me nuts. Every time I turn around, she is saying something judgy about me or someone I know, and I have to bite my tongue because I have to VT with her. I can only imagine what she says about me when I'm not around. Ack is right!

Anna@Exasperation said...

Chrysta, I can't believe you just said that. Now I'm totally judging your judging of others' judging.

Chrystapooh said...

Judge away, Anna, judge away. I'm a big girl, I can take it.

Deb said...

I'll be the judge of that.